Saturday, May 12, 2012

the day she was born


 

Smoothly, calmly, peacefully - this is how our Sybil Mae came to us.

I woke up on that Tuesday morning with mild contractions. After pouring milk over bowls of cereal and packing apples into backpacks I guessed I was in labor. I kissed the boys off to school, telling them what might happen if the baby comes today, and watched the bus doors shut behind them. 

Back in the door I asked David to hang back a little before going into work. His face lit up. He is my favorite to share news with. Then everything became quicker. I tossed my phone and wallet into my pretty purple bag and packed an over night one for the boys. Made some phone calls.

The contractions became stronger and closer together. I got nervous. and scared. I was shaking. David laid his hands on my head and gave me a Priesthood Blessing. The spirit filled my heart and there was no more fear or panic or worry. Peace entered and calm stayed.

A glass of dark grape juice. A bran muffin. My bedroom. Quiet. A tall stack of pillows. Mid morning light coming in through the curtains. Dave pushing on my back in just the right spot to counter the pain. 1 minute long, 3 minutes apart.

I stayed in my space while Dave took care of a few things (new couch delivery! Thanks to Jane and Blake : ) and a rather persistent delivery man). 

Then it was time to call the taxi. The taxi man took one look at us and our empty car seat, bags, and belly and said "Baby?!" We nodded. He didn't say another word but drove on quick and steady. 

Through the hospital doors, up the stairs, down the hall, stopping for contractions. Dilated to a 5, a sweet Phillipina nurse, another stack of pillows. Water broke at 12:30pm. Intense. Intense. Intense. But still calm. A smiling anesthesiologist, a big needle and then an epidural.  
 

Praise. 

We dimmed the lights, held hands, called family and waited for our sweet girl.

After some guidance from our doctor and some hard work pushing, she was born. 4:22pm. Straight into her Daddy's hands. Then they handed her to me wrapped in a blue cloth.

Screaming, covered, and beautiful. She was here. 

I saw both Noah and Gage in her face. But mostly herself. Our daughter. Our Sybil Mae.




We had a great experience having a baby in Singapore. Most things were very similar to the US, with a few differences.  They were very hands off and let me do what I wanted. No midnight blood pressure checks. Measurements made in kg and cm. Our doctor, who is usually clad in a striped shirt and tie, came into the delivery room wearing a white tshirt, jeans, and huge galoshes. No scrubs? I had to specifically request ice water instead of warm water. The nurses laughed when I was too tall for the stretcher to transfer rooms. After being here for 3 years we are used to most of the accents, but the nice Indian nurse asking me if I needed to "make a big poo poo" with her head tilting back and forth cracked us up!


Papaya fish soup was served to "help with breastfeeding."


And Milo was served with pandan cake every couple hours. I didn't mind this part at all : )


The boys came the next morning to see their new sister. Dave opened the door when they arrived but Gage did not even glance at him, he just ran pell mell into the room, "Where's Sybil?!!" Then he couldn't stop giggling and smiling he was so excited to see her. He wanted to see her tiny feet, and her tiny hands, and her tiny ears.



Noah came with a gift and cooed and cooed at Sybil until she held onto it. That sweet gentle voice melted this mama heart.






Tuesday, May 8, 2012

Sybil Mae


* Sybil Mae Wagner *
born May 8th 
3.375 kg 50cm

Wednesday, May 2, 2012

EDD


Today is my due date.  But because of these boys I know I've got about 10 more days to go.

 
My sandals fit tight now. And my toes look like they belong to someone else.  I've slowed down and have got the usual list of pregnancy aches.


But there is a baby girl on her way.

She is coming soon.

We can't believe it.

I'm trying to keep my schedule light. Dave has been taking the boys to school in the mornings. My bag is all packed and we've got her room almost ready.



I can't help but peek in every time I pass.

Sometimes I sit in that rocker for just a minute. Feeling her kick in my belly. My belly, big and round.

I'll miss that. 
 


Gage leaves little presents in the crib for her. An old glow stick, a finger puppet. "Mei mei will love this," he says.

Noah still wants to name her Jessie. He says its the prettiest name he knows.

We'll keep you posted...


Tuesday, April 24, 2012

10 things

10 things I love about living in Singapore

in no particular order



1. It's always beach and pool weather during some part of the day - sunny blue skies, let's go swimming!

2. Lots of fresh fruit - mangoes, pineapples, mangosteens, pomelos, passion fruit, papaya. And fresh fruit juice everywhere.



3. Simple apartment living = no yard work, quick cleaning, less stuff

4. Great restaurants! Indian food, fusion food, Thai food, local food, Dim Sum, Awfully Chocolate

5. Big city stuff to do - museums, science centers, shopping, the Zoo!





6. Culture is everywhere - joss sticks on the sidewalks, ladies walking around in Indian saris, mosques, temples. There's always something interesting to see. And there's always a holiday - Chinese New Year, Deepavali, Hari Raya, Lantern festival, etc.

7. Interesting people - there's a big expat community with friends from all over the world

8. International Schools - the IB program, small teacher to student ratio, diversity, open minds



9. Travel! there are so many amazing places nearby - Thailand, Bali, Hong Kong, Cambodia, the Phillipines, Vietnam, Indonesia, Malaysia. Travel has always been an interest of mine, but now it is under my skin.


10. Travel. Did I say that already?  Love love it.




10 things I don't love about living in Singapore

1. Cockroaches, ants, geckos in my kitchen

2. Hot and humid weather = sweat

3. Public transportation (although really nice and efficient) gets old: when its raining or when you are late, you can't get a taxi and you can't even call one, you are just stuck

4. Sometimes I just want normal groceries

5. Crowds, people staring at me, different sense of personal space

6. Weird smells - sewer, garbage, nasty tofu the neighbors are cooking

7.  Costumer service - 'no stock!' they don't want to help you find what you are looking for, takes 3 days to get a gift certificate, bring out food when its ready not all together, no napkins or free water at some places

8. Squatty potties, public toilets are not my favorite

9. Expensive cost of living - rent! car! school!

10. When people don't understand my English

Not too bad, really.

We had some Indian friends who moved to Michigan from Singapore. They are back in Singapore now and at dinner once we talked about what things were hard for her when she moved to Michigan. They were all the same things! Just in reverse. Transportation, weather, food. She couldn't find her Indian ingredients or they were really expensive, she couldn't get used to the cold cold winter, and she couldn't believe there was no subway and the bus system was so bad.

People say living abroad is the best and hardest thing they've ever done.

I agree.



Wednesday, April 18, 2012

a black eye


Dave added a little more "thug to his handsome face" over the weekend. Caught an elbow during a game of Aussie rules Football.

McQueen reminded me it was in the same spot as last time

To protect his friends Dave won't tell me who did it.

But I have my suspects.

Easter Morning



With early morning bed heads these boys searched for their Easter baskets. 

Gage ate all his candy before breakfast. Noah sorted and saved his. 




We ate cinnamon rolls and then spent the day listening to pure inspiration.

Happy Easter.

Easter parties


I love Easter candy. I love Cadbury mini eggs, robin eggs, jordan almonds, anything chocolate. I love the colors and the smells. Yum! I had to keep buying more robin eggs for our crafts because I kept eating them all myself. Can I blame that on being pregnant? 


We had a wonderful Easter party for playgroup. Thanks for hosting Jonette!



All ready for the egg hunt.


Gage was a master egg hunter. Once his basket was full he went around and found eggs for his little friends. 

A sweetie, this one.


Noah and Greta and Heath.


Guess who found the egg with the $2 inside?  


We also had an Easter party with our neighbors. Here's Captain Charlie telling the kids where the boundaries are for the egg hunt. We also raced eggs, ate donuts off of strings and had a BBQ. Some of these neighbors are moving soon, and we'll sure miss them. 

  
The boys don't believe me when I tell them we used to do this in the snow. "That would be so easy!" they say. And just think, you could even put the chocolate outside without it melting or without the ants finding it first. For here and now we'll stick to jelly beans.